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ONE MOTHER’S PERSPECTIVE
Welcome to my blog. This is a place where I can share what I have learned from the experience of losing my son to addiction. My purpose is in giving a voice to Cody’s disease, which is so misunderstood. Where the hope lies is in my story beginning again, “a fresh start”, and in giving hope to others in recovery. I can advocate for change, and for not letting one more child die from a drug overdose or letting one more parent suffer in silence.
From time to time, I will be including guest blogs and other posts of relevance to share other’s similar experiences.
Mary Cucarola, Founder
THIS IS WHY WE DO IT
I had been doing meth since 2009. I have been obese all of my life and I wanted to have gastric bypass surgery. In order for my medical insurance company to authorize the surgery, I had to lose 30 pounds beforehand. I weighed around 325 pounds at that point. I have been a phlebotomist since 1990 and worked in hospitals, prisons, and the downtown main jail, so I have seen what alcohol and drugs can do to a person.
In fact, I got involved in drugs as a teenager and thought I was smarter than all my drug friends and quit and “got a life”. I got married when I was 26 and had my first child at 32. My daughter will be 17 next week. I also got pregnant unexpectedly at 39 with my son, and he just turned 11.
Anyway, I had a difficult time losing the 30 pounds. I thought it wouldn’t do any harm to smoke meth for a couple of months to lose that weight. It was easy to get and I liked that old feeling again. When I met my boyfriend 4 years ago, he did it also and it became an all day habit. I eventually got evicted from my beautiful home, where I had grown a garden, raised my kids for the past 5 years, and raised chickens.
I moved in with my boyfriend’s parents, and asked my kids’ father to take the kids so I could go to rehab for 3 months. But in reality, as guilty as I felt for giving up my kids, I kept doing drugs and telling people I was on waiting lists for rehabs…..
The worst thing that finally happened was that my boyfriend suffered a fatal heart attack. His parents kicked me out after he died and I was homeless. I put myself into a county program and finished 30 days of treatment. I found a transitional house, but it fell through. I was homeless again.
I reached out to a member of a church I used to attend and by word of mouth through the community; I found a transitional home, which Cody’s Fresh Start helped me get into by paying my rent. I immediately started a Bible Study called “Search for Significance”. I believe that was the perfect study for me. I felt so torn down, guilty and shameful for everything that had went on…..
Thank you so much for making this door open to me. I never knew so much good could come from bringing Him into my life. Thank you so much for this chance.
How I was introduced to Cody's Fresh Start is an absolute God thing. I was in a treatment center, that my insurance was helping pay for. Before the first three appointments I missed to check into detox I was homeless. Sleeping in a car I luckily still had. The daily struggle and hustle to eat and feed my addiction and the way logic was out the door whether drugs were more important than food, was killing me. I came into detox weighing 150 lbs. Towards the end of my 28 days I was weighing 175lbs. and looking at options for my discharge and found I didn't have many. I had burnt all bridges with my family to the point of them not wanting me in their lives. I had to ask though. Something was changing in me, I actually wanted to stay clean and sober. After exhausting my options with a bunch of no's, my brother offered to pay for a gym membership for me I use so I could shower, use the locker room to shave and look for work. While my sleeping arrangement was in the air, I realized I would be living out of my car again. This circumstance was stressful to say the least, especially being newly sober.
Four days before my discharge date a bed opened up in a sober living environment, I asked her to reserve it for me. I didn't have any money or way to back up my word. The next day, Mary got in touch with me, I don't even really know exactly how the grapevine got out to Colorado, but she told me who she was and told me about Cody's Fresh Start. I was in shock when I got off the phone, a counselor at my treatment had to ask me to snap out of it. I was able to move into the Sober Living I am still in today, thanks to the aid. I just recently became employed full time and I owe some money and have everyday Cadillac problems.
I’ll tell you something, the blessing of having a pillow to put my sober head on every night since 10/9/14 is beyond words. Coming from where I come from to what’s happening in my life now makes me smile. I really don’t know who reads this, and I don't have much experience writing or expressing how grateful I am for Cody's Fresh Start and by the grace of God another day clean and sober. Everything in between happens so fast and are blessings. So, I think I ranted, but I just want to say Thank You.